Reply to Doing for your kids vs. Kids doing for themselves

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Doing for your kids vs. Kids doing for themselves"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom cooked my breakfast, made my lunch for school, and did my laundry until I went off to college.  It was nice.  I have two older elementary-aged boys, and I expect that I will be doing the same for them through high school.  Part of the reason for this is that I don't want them to have cereal and milk for breakfast and a PB&J for lunch every day.  If I make breakfast/lunch for them, then I get to develop their palette a little more!  :)

[/quote]

I had the same experience and I agree.  I had no problem figuring out how to do laundry and make simple foods for myself when I got to college, and I figure my kids can figure it out then, too.  [/quote]

Pretty much my thoughts too. They have a lifetime ahead of them to do their own laundry.

I've got a 14 year old and a 8 year old. I tend to call my 14 year old my personal assistant, because she is always running around the house getting things for me, she is also taller than me so handy to get things off high shelves. She does her room, I go through and make sure no food is in there, we discuss organization and I offer to help when needed (always turned down, always desperately needed). I do the laundry, all the food prep, we have a cleaning lady that comes once a week, so there isn't a lot of other cleaning that has to  happen besides vacuuming and I do that as well, occasionally I will ask the 14 year old to do it if I'm otherwise occupied. 8 year old takes her own laundry down and sorts with assistance from big sister. They do the dishes after dinner. I make lunches for school but seriously that isn't a big deal and I like to include a variety and they're running around getting ready for school.

I do not touch the 14 year old's  homework. I ask how things are going, does she need anything, and ask about dates for big projects. 8 year old is pretty self directed, but I help her when needed.Sometimes it is hard to parent with such a large age gap, because I have to remember the ages and maturity levels (both ways). Don't want to infantalize the older, but don't want the younger to feel like she has more to do than she can handle right now.

Typing this up though, I'm wondering, what is it that DH does? Maybe I need to teach him some household responsibility. ;)[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics