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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I advise you to postpone the wedding awhile more.

Reason being, you are having some doubts already. These may be valid ones too that are just now coming to the surface and may be caused by age, experience and/or pressure.

A bride should expect her wedding day to be the best day ever in her life thus far. She should feel like a princess all day and expect to make wonderful memories for the rest of her life.

And the idea of being Mrs. ______ should be exciting just in thought.

If you seriously have zero anticipation when thinking of walking down that aisle, don't do it.

Allow yourself more time to be engaged and look at your relationship as a whole to determine if this is in fact what you truly want.

Hope this helps.[/quote]

A woman should be old enough when she marries to know how silly this foundation would be for a marriage.

A bride should expect her wedding day to be a significant day in her life, as important as passing the bar exam or entering medical school.  She should feel serene and competent and be surrounded by people she enjoys, but she will probably be extremely stressed and she will have to understand that weddings are like that.

And the idea of being Mrs. ______ is just fine, but keeping your own name which you've had all your life is what mature women do.

If you seriously have zero anticipation when thinking of walking down that aisle, you may be thinking of all the other things you have going on in your life:  your job, your health, your finances, your honeymoon.  That's natural too.

Allow yourself time to ask yourself some important questions:

What would happen if my fiance and I had an unexpected pregnancy?

What would happen if we had a special needs child?

What would happen if one of us faced a life threatening/changing illness or accident?

What if one of us needed to take a job cross country?

What if one of us lost a job?

What if I or he wanted to take time off from work (for whatever reason) and expected the other to support us?

What is his most cherished dream?  Do I know?  Do I feel comfortable telling him mine?

Do I feel comfortable revealing fantasies to him, sexual or just everyday?

Does he know and accept my family -- doesn't mean he has to like them?

Does he help me to accept them, or does he stir the pot?

Hope this helps.[/quote]

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