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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you have very good gut instincts.  Please honor yourself and follow them.  I'm glad DCUM is joining the chorus that is already in your head -- this guy is not right for you, not aligned with your goals at all.

You can be supportive of his goals to go to grad school, get out of debt, and get a stable job while at the same time getting married and building a "nest", both physical and financial, to prepare you for starting to have kids in a couple of years.  (In fact, DH and I got out of debt together by supporting each other and combining households, and then learning to budget and keep a budget together.)    But this guy sees his goals as exclusive of yours.  He's not interested in planning together.

As someone who wasted many years with such a guy, please do yourself a favor and break up now.  Even though things are good in many ways.  That's the trap --- he is probably VERY comfortable in this relationship right now and would be comfortable staying this way with you for another 2, 3, 4 years or MORE.  But that's not what you want.  You want to move forward and build a family with someone.

This is not the guy.

Please know that and act on it.  Soon.[/quote]

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