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Can your MIL really not understand why it's not as easy to visit her? Is it really just that you guys don't like her and don't want to bother? (Not blaming you; she sounds like she didn't factor your family in at all. Were there financial reasons she picked that location?) If her house was kid-friendly would you then go?
Can your MIL join you on vacation somewhere? I realize she'd still have to board the dog, but it would be a way to offer her another option for spending time with you, and it might be easier for her to get there.

(Btw, random and off-topic: when you stay in hotels, are you all in one room, or do you do two rooms with a parent in each room, or what?)[/quote]

I"m the OP.
Thanks everyone for their thoughts.  
To answer the above questions- we really hardly ever travel.  We never have done the two rooms with a parent in each room, sometimes we get a big room that will allow 6, sometimes we get a suite, sometimes we get connecting rooms.  Right now our kids are small enough that they are happy on the floor- this will probably change as they get bigger.

MIL kind of understands why its not easier to visit her- she just doesn't really care.   So long as we don't go anywhere she is not to frustrated, she just gets upset when we visit DH's grandparents (which we have done 1 time since being a family of 6, and are planning another trip.)

At the risk of total outing myself- no there were not financial reasons why she picked her retirement location.   Her retirement location is more expensive than where she was living.  She basically thinks the world owes her because she was divorced against her will more than 30 years ago.  Somehow retiring to a remote location is something in her mind she 'deserves' because she was divorced.

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I'm a PP, and so what.  SO WHAT? if you want to see her, you'll go. If you don't and your husband does, he'll go, maybe with kids. Who cares? You DO NOT HAVE TO GO.[/quote]

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