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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL left a fully paid off home 20-25 minutes away from us in regular traffic to move an hour away from us in Sunday morning traffic.  We begged her not to make the move since we both work FT and have kids.  Flash forward 10 years and we see her less than a handful of times per year.  When we do see her, she bellyaches about how much she wishes she could see us more.  She doesn't complain that much in front of me because I am completely unsympathetic to her self-imposed woe.  I will never in a million years understand why people move away from their families.  [/quote]

I dunno. An hour each way doesn't seem so prohibitive. Also, can't she drive to visit you as well?[/quote]

No, she can't drive that far anymore.  Until a couple of years ago, she could drive comfortably during daylight hours.  The only time the drive is an hour is on a holiday or at 8am on a weekend morning.  In regular weekday traffic, it would be more than an hour each way.  We work FT and have middle school aged kids.  Weekends are packed and weeknights are non starter.  If she lived in her old house, I could do things like go and pick her up for our child's school events or we could bring dinner to her house on a weeknight.  Finishing dinner and driving 20 minutes home on a school night is a hell of a lot different than driving on 66 and back roads for an hour or more.  And frankly my husband isn't interested in sacrificing his free time to schlep out and see his mother.  I have too much on my plate to care more than he does about having a relationship with his mom so we see her when we can which is not nearly often enough for her liking and I am, admittedly, not sympathetic to her since she moved and we *begged* her not to.[/quote]

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