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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Through my kids.  I'm in my 50s but I have middle school and high schoolers.[/quote]

Me too, but it hasn't worked. All the other  parents are at least a decade younger than I am. I don't feel like I have that much in common with them. [/quote]

Here's what I have in common with my friends who are 40 to 45: issues raising kids; work/family balance issues; exercise; volunteer for causes we are all interested in.[/quote]

Yeah, I don't get this. I am 50, with one child in high school and one in middle school. There are plenty of high school and middle school kids around with parents who are my age or older. But even if there weren't, so what? My closest friend in DC is 8 years younger than I am. She has a middle schooler, but also one in elementary and one preschooler. We still have plenty to talk about, plenty in common. I enjoy hearing about the funny things her little one does, and she enjoys hearing about my oldest's college search. We both have typical middle school struggles to talk about. We also talk about books, movies, exercise, politics, current events, aging parents, work issues, husband issues.

I also socialize frequently with a few neighbors who are 10+ years older than I am. Their children are grown and gone, and they are retired. But that means they have plenty of time to socialize. In the summer, when I pull into the driveway after work, one will often call out from her porch that she's opened a bottle of wine and would I like to come over for a drink? Why, yes, I usually would, lol.

And the 3 people I like most at work, and chat with most, are 10 years older and 12 and 15 years younger than me. The older one has no children and has never been married. The younger two have toddlers. So we are in very different places in life but still plenty to appreciate about one another.

It can be hard to make friends, so don't put up barriers that don't need to be there. After 30 or so, age matters very little. Forget about it. It's just a number.[/quote]

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