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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of that food I would have eaten while pregnant. Most of that food is pretty standard Christmas fare.  And if you had simply shown up for dinner with that being served it would not be an issue.  Those were nice meals you were served.

The rude part is that your MIL asked about your food preferences.  You told her.  And she served a meal that you could not eat anyway.  That was incredibly rude and a passive aggressive jab on her part towards you.

Doesn't sound as though your husband is going to let her get away with it though.  Good for him  He SHOULD say something.  You handled yourself well.

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This. I wouldn't have batted an eye at most of that when pregnant, although it's quite rude to put bacon all over everything when she knows you don't eat it. That had to be deliberate. Would it have killed her to have left it off one dish? Honestly, I'm surprised MIL knew to ask you for a list of forbidden foods at all. Before my first pregnancy I didn't know anything was off limits except sushi and wine. And my midwife didn't give me a list so I would never have known about deli meat, soft cheese, etc except for DCUM.

But, since she did ask you and you gave it to her and she then proceeded to serve all those foods anyway, it had to be deliberate or at the least rude. She could have pulled you aside and said "I'm so sorry, but this is the menu I always make and you had a lot more restrictions than I anticipated so I couldn't change it, but please feel free to make yourself an omelet or a sandwich if you don't feel comfortable eating the main meal." But she didn't. So that is rude.

I don't really understand why you couldn't just make your own well-done eggs the next morning though. If she denies access to the kitchen you have even bigger problems there![/quote]

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