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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are being unfair. He has declined discussing it with you[b]. You seem to think you have a right to this information, but you do not. 
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Have you considered that he's concerned you're one of the jealous types that will freak out about his prior activities and obsess about it? That would be my concern if someone kept questioning me. He's smart to avoid that can of worms. Let it go. [/quote]

I don't know why people are being so harsh with me and calling me names. I'm not looking to compare myself to the other girl and I have said before I do not want to know specific details about his  first time or any other time after.
All I want to know is how old he was and who it was with that's it. To me that's as simple as   18  and it was some girl from Spanish class.

I'm not asking to know what he was wearing, what he had for breakfast the morning of, or a minute by minute play by play of the act.  Which is ironic  because he knows all that  when it comes to me.

The part in bold  is what I don't understand.  I mean I could understand if this was some random guy I didn't know well, but we've been together  for a while now have talked about moving in together and marriage. In general we get a long together, communicate well, but this makes it feel like he's lying to me.  I just want a straight answer.
Maybe I'm making a big deal out of nothing, I just truly don't understand why  it's none of my business , and maybe that  makes me immature or not experienced enough.
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It's none of your business because it doesn't affect you. Knowing that it was with his first girlfriend when he was 15 upstairs in her bedroom while her parents were making dinner downstairs, or at 25 with some random girl whose name he didn't know against a dumpster behind a bar, doesn't affect who he is with you in your relationship right now. Unless you'd make major decisions about the relationship based on this information, it's not information you need, just information you want and are nosy about, which is what makes it none of your business unless he chooses to share it with you. The fact that you cannot understand this boundary may be a huge sign of why he's not comfortable talking to you about it.[/quote]

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