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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No no no no. I married a guy just like your boyfriend. I have been in tears all day and I want to die right now. We have been together 15 years and it has only gotten worse. He isn't just belittling now, he's nasty and abusive. I hate my life. Please don't marry him. [/quote]

Were there signs of this before you were engaged? Did you believe things would just get better over time? Because that's the part where right now I feel naive especially as I read other people's feedback.

I think we would be great because we both have shared values and we come from similar family upbringing despite growing up in different states. As he got older though he has been less active in the religious aspect of his life, and having gone through that journey myself I feel like if he's meant to be led back into the church he will find his own way. I don't want to push him. That said, we have discussed that if we have children, we would want to raise them of the same faith we were raised as and send them to Christian schooling so long as it's affordable which might not be in this DMV area. I have issues with the idea of moving out of this area because all my friends and family are here and my work is here. My work is super important to me and he has a job where he can pick up and go anytime and still find relatively similar line of work. I am worried that if motherhood should happen there may be the expectation that the majority of parenting duties will fall upon me, but when we have brought that up in discussion, he tells me with great gusto that he wants to be a hands on parent and he would be willing and ready to get in on all the action and help whatever ways he can because it's our child, not my child. That really spoke to me and gave me the notion that he'd be a good co-parent and father so maybe my hesitations, worries, and insecurity are unfounded.

But then again, if I was so sure about everything I'm sure I wouldn't be seeking opinions on DCUM at 2am...[/quote]

Yup, as a Christian, definitely the wrong place to seek advice. You need relationship counseling. Many churches offer this. Go by yourself at first.[/quote]

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