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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The throw might be worth more or about the same as SILs gifts. I'd prefer a throw -- but I'm probably not normal. Was it really ugly or not your style?  [/quote]

It isn't. It's a really cheap one. Totally not me, and she knows it. By the way, this is the second blanket I've received from her. A few years back she bought SIL a Ralph Lauren sweater and I received a fleece blanket. I was so confused then and a bit upset. [b]I always thought that she should gift is equally as she does her own children.[/b] Even if the shoe was on the other foot I would feel awkward. I think it's just a recipe for disaster.[/quote]

I'm beginning to see why there might be friction with your MIL. OP: I think you are keeping score too much here and inserting your expectations where they don't belong.[/quote]

I do keep score, this is true. But she would never know it. I have never once had a conversation with her about this. I do have certain expectations for inlaw relationships. I think she should treat us as she would her own children (in the sense, I would never buy one kid a car and the other a bike, if they both were of the legal age to drive, if I did this, one would feel as if I'm favoring the other)[/quote]

You're wrong about this though, frankly. You are not her kid. She has known her child 25 yrs+ longer than you -- that relationship is and should be stronger.

I fully agree with this even though I totally understand how you feel op

And since you do seem to be coming here with an open mind and want honest opinions, let me share mine: you are being unreasonable in your gift giving expectations. You are assuming that everyone approaches gift giving the same way you do, which they do not, and then you are judging them when they don't live up to your expectations. Not fair. Not healthy. [/quote][/quote]

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