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For us, it's been about accepting the facts, taking the time to mourn the life we're not having, and then focusing on the positives of having an only--of which there are many--and making a consistent effort to help our daughter build relationships and friendships.  
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OP here.  I guess it's hard for me to focus on the positives of being an only, though I know there are some, because I am an only and know what my experience was like.  [quote]The big difference is my parents did not try to overcompensate for having no local family around by trying to make family friends/help me have good friends.  They never made any friends themselves where we lived/didn't know our neighbors/weren't proactive in helping me make friends[/quote].  For example, I can't remember ever being allowed to invite a friend out to dinner or when we were going somewhere.  It was always just me and my parents.  I don't have any friends from my school days/high school now.  I haven't been back to my hometown in over 10 years b/c my parents moved away and retired elsewhere.

As a parent of an only, I will work hard to make sure my DD has a completely different experience (much more kid-friendly and having lots of friends around).  I'm sure she will be able to make friends once she gets into school, but I am having a lot of difficulty making mom friends/family friends.  No one seems to have the time/interest.[/quote]

OP yes, it is hard for adults to make friends here, both DH and I are introverts and after all the time spent working, and running the household and raising kids, we have zero energy left.
However I am only as well and my parents had tons of their own troubles going on, but I managed to make lot of friends in school and have a good time there. I dont think it is even fair to expect parents to "overcompensate" for not having 2 kids. For younger children, maybe some hand holding helps, but not once you hit elementary.[/quote]

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