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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an Indian American woman who was raised by really traditional and conservative Indian parents. At 24, I am now almost exclusively attracted to blonde super preppy Americana boys.

A part of it feels natural; I went to an all white high school. The other feels strange. Why don't I want to date Indian guys?

I'm so confused! [/quote]

OP you sound like me at that age only I'm AA.  when I was older ( 30)  I discovered my preference was because like you I had come of age surrounded by white males, the only AA males were related to me. I just didn't see my own as something to see as attractive as a potential partner. Does that make sense?
Anyway once I recognized that it helped me broaden my horizons, and if I'm to be 100%  I am no longer attracted to those race which is ok with me, given this country's current climate I want a husband who understands how it is  to the core without me needing to teach him, but that' s a different conversation.[/quote]

Another AA woman here and I agree with you. I recently went on a date with a guy(I've dated outside of my race frequently) and he brought up a situation with police and racism. My first thought was "he just doesn't get it". While I am definitely open to dating white men, I feel like other minorities are more relatable. [/quote]

Op I was raised the same but I'm white and have only dated Turkish or south asian men. I'm currently married to a Bangladeshi guy. None of my white friends supported me because they have heard so many horror stories about these guys breaking up with them to marry someone from their home countries. I'm also the only person that married outside my race in my family. I am so grateful both our families have been incredibly supportive. I'm not sure why I only have a thing for brown guys. This is who I am usually checking out when I'm in public haha and Bangladeshi events can be so fun because there are tons of guys I am attracted to!

I once started talking to an american white guy but broke it off after 2 dates. I confessed that I am kinda into foreign guys. He was so mad it was kind of laughable. He couldn't understand why I rejected him since he was 1) very cute 2) went to Harvard 3) had an amazing job . 
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He sounds like a date I had many times (of various demographics) before I met the right guy, who ended up being my own demographic. The guy you dated probably said that to many, many women because he was superficial and shallow. Nobody should judge an entire demographic group because one guy was "laughable" -- probably in general.[/quote]

How am I judging an entire demographic when I am white myself. I grew up here! I'm attracted to other races. This doesn't make me racist. Op I think they're two different things. I used that guy as an example because he seemed perfect. I'm just into other races when it comes to dating. Nothing wrong with this.

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