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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know it bothers her, but I keep my MIL on my Restricted FB list. She still sees all the kid photos and everyday posts, but I sometimes indulge my dark humor and don't really want her seeing that. She found out because one of DH's cousins cracked up at something I posted when he was with her, and told her to look at my FB when she asked what was funny.

It wasn't intentional to hurt/exclude her, but I won't change it even though I know it bothers her. Oh well...[/quote]

This is exactly the kind of thing my SIL did...from day one..which made it clear that she wanted zero relationship with me, and with my family.  Why she felt her "dark humor" was so different from anyone else's dark humor is beyond me.  Ditto why no one in our family could be informed that she had cancer.  Yes, you heard that correctly.  We could not know because it was "private."  I found out the day of my wedding when she arrived wearing a wig and my brother pulled me aside to tell me she was getting chemo.  Gee, thanks for that shitload on my wedding day![/quote]

Cancer us extremely private, and there's no right if wrong way for a patient to handle it, PP. You are comparing it to social media settings? Needing chemo is very serious. Losing your hair is demoralizing. It is not about you![/quote]

+1[/quote]

I'm a private person and I totally get why SIL would keep something like that private.  But SIL was not keeping it private.  She was sharing her news with other people, just not Op.  Op got to find out about it on her wedding day which was pretty terrible.

Obviously SIL's private health matters were her own business and cancer is mighty huge thing to have to deal with - you do what you have to do. But to tell everyone but a handful of people (or maybe just Op) is strange.  I would imagine that since Op was blocked from SIL's more private info on FB, Op was also posting things that seemed enormously self centered and inconsiderate to the people who were in the know.

I'm sure that SIL had bigger things on her plate to worry about.  I'm sure that SIL had her reasons for blocking Op.  But that doesn't mean that Op has no reason to feel hurt by it.[/quote]

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