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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an Indian American woman who was raised by really traditional and conservative Indian parents. At 24, I am now almost exclusively attracted to blonde super preppy Americana boys.

A part of it feels natural; I went to an all white high school. The other feels strange. Why don't I want to date Indian guys?

I'm so confused! [/quote]

OP you sound like me at that age only I'm AA.  when I was older ( 30)  I discovered my preference was because like you I had come of age surrounded by white males, the only AA males were related to me. I just didn't see my own as something to see as attractive as a potential partner. Does that make sense?
Anyway once I recognized that it helped me broaden my horizons, and if I'm to be 100%  I am no longer attracted to those race which is ok with me, given this country's current climate I want a husband who understands how it is  to the core without me needing to teach him, but that' s a different conversation.[/quote]

Another AA woman here and I agree with you. I recently went on a date with a guy(I've dated outside of my race frequently) and he brought up a situation with police and racism. My first thought was "he just doesn't get it". While I am definitely open to dating white men, I feel like other minorities are more relatable. [/quote]

African woman here.  I find AA men as ignorant where gender is concerned as white men are where race is concerned.  Perhaps because I see myself as a woman first and black second (black means nothing where I come from), I find I can't tolerate AA men's poisonous attitudes towards women and their lack of traditional family values.[/quote]

I doubt you are given your first sentence.  I do believe you are the person who likes to haunt another website to make certain nothing positive gets said about AA men.
In my experience AA are extremely respectful in their attitudes towards women and  place a high value on family, they are no more ignorant than their white counterparts. 
Like you and OP some men of color have been impacted by  the age old objectification of us that was used as a tool of subjugation.  
Since you are interested in women and respect take  a Google on Sarah Baartman. Whose culture was that?
This is the endgame of  social conditioning White= good, anything not white has no value and  is demonized and lied about to to maintain division and control.[/quote]

Yes, AA men are so respectful that they created an entire genre of music to denigrate their women.  Have you listened to hip hop lately? For every song protesting racism, there are 500 calling women all sorts of names. Such respect![/quote]

Well damn...I must have missed the indoctrination seminar where they said black men have to listen to hip hop.  Is there a repeat course I can take?  Here I am walking around with Lonnie Liston Smith and Earth, Wind and Fire downloaded in my iPhone thinking its perfectly okay, that I'm allotted such a thing as personal preference, but apparently I'm breaking the rules of being a black man.  Geezus is my blackness going to get revoked?[/quote]

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