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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. He got in trouble lately because of what happened over a decade ago due to his need to confess what he did over a decade ago during a high level security clearance interview.  He was also very sick that day (our whole family had the stomach flu) and his interviewer still wanted to interview him even though he said he wasn't feeling well.  He was very incoherent during the interview (I know because he was incoherent when he left for the interview). Also, it felt like the interviewer was coaxing him with certain questions and told him to confess everything he has ever done that may affect the clearance.  The interviewer told him that it would not affect his clearance and that this will help them understand him.  He did not get that clearance and we are appealing it so that it doesn't affect his current clearance.  He has never gotten into any legal trouble.  I was very upset last summer about this whole situation and I asked him not to look at any porn just so that none of it can come back to hurt the appeal process and he agreed at the time.  Later, he started looking at porn again and the though legal but disturbing porn.  This is why I said he has a porn addiction problem and this is the trouble he got into.       [/quote]

Do you have an attorney who specializes in security clearances working with you on the appeal?  If not, you need one.  If he had a security clearance on the basis of an interview where he was asked a question that should have prompted him to disclose this, then that will be a major impediment  for him keeping the old clearance, let alone getting the new one.  You need serious legal counsel.  Your legal counsel should also be advising you/him about your spouse seeing a counselor and psychiatrist and how much of that is disclosable and whether seeing someone will help or hurt the appeal (should help, particularly if it is framed in the right way).

Porn addiction is a serious problem, both in the sense that he couldn't stop  himself from doing viewing something that, even if legal, could affect his ability to generate income to survive.  It's a separate, but different, problem that the kind of porn he is viewing is negatively affecting his sexual behavior and thus your relationship with him.  [/quote]

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