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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Dad's funeral was December 21, 2013. He was the last member of my immediate family, I was in grad school 600 miles away, and I had been driving back and forth overnight for months to be with him. I haven't celebrated a holiday since. I've been invited to things by extended family and close friends, but I can see when I walk in the door that every one has been informed of my circumstances and [b]I'm there out of pity[/b]. Instead, I sleep in, make a nice big breakfast, do some things I enjoy without the interruption of my phone going off, and usually go out for dinner somewhere. It's not ideal I guess, but it's an adaptation that allows me to keep my sanity. You will have to adapt and figure out what holidays and special events will look like in your future, and make peace with whatever you decide. [/quote]

I think you may be misinterpreting what you see. They know how hard this must be for you, and they are probably all worried that they are going to say or do the wrong thing and make things worse.

Don't go if your quiet day with a big breakfast works better for you, but don't assume you're there for any reason other than the fact that people like you and would like to see you. [/quote]

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