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[quote=Anonymous]There is no short cut to life. My parents divorced after 30 years of marriage-- a marriage in which they got along pretty well but weren't able to agree on how to handle the next phase of life.

Being able to be yourself is critically important because you don't have a real relationship with anyone if you aren't being yourself. Being psychologically healthy, kind to each other and respecting each other are critical also because all couples have disagreements so you can't argue with a person who is willing to destroy the relationship to win an argument. Sharing long-term values will reduce a lot of problems. In general, other things (for example relationships with inlaws, money, issues with children) can be worked through if working through them is important enough to the couple. Often times, the only difference between couples who stay married and couples who divorce is that the couples who stay married didn't walk away and eventually 'survived' the crisis. Crisis of some kind (whether it's infidelity, extended job loss/ money problems, health problems that can affect libido, a child with a serious problem such as mental illness or drug abuse) happen to lots of couples-- some just stay together despite it or through it.

Things to let go: looks (although sexual attraction is important, looks fade), money (look for a hard worker who values money the same way you do), their past (they may have slept around more than you like or have children), their hobbies (who cares if they like football and you like reading as long as you give each other space and there is other stuff you like to do together). [/quote]

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