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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is 17 and he and his friends often smoke on the weekends. He's a good kid, good grades, no problems but I'm not sure about this...[/quote]
I'm with your husband on this. Pick your battles.[/quote]

You pick your battles over clothes, hair styles, and piercings. Where the health of a child is concerned it's not something to be flippant about. There is a  cancer  risk with hookah use. Cancer is a huge deal to me and something to fight about at any age.[/quote]

So your suggestion is to do what, exactly? Sternly state your disapproval? Have you ever met a 17-year-old? :roll:[/quote]

Yes and I also was one to quote my parents on the subject [b]your life doesn't start till your 18[/b]. There are ways to control your 17 year old.

But perhaps your cool with sitting bedside to your 25 year old while he battles cancer. [/quote]

Lol. Your attitude is the reason why kids go crazy in college, because they can finally try all the things sanctimonious mommy and daddy wouldn't let them try in high school. Your job as a parent is to help your child navigate all the difficult choices they must make in life, including the social positives of participating in hookah with friends vs. the negative health effects of smoking. If you categorically say no, your child will never learn the frameworks they need to make solid decisions once you are not around to guide them.[/quote]
I agree. 17 is not a child and hookah is not cocaine. This is a choice your son can make as part of the growth process, maybe with some boundaries in place (such as only on weekends, not in front of younger siblings). You could also ask him to select non-tobacco hookah as much as possible if that's important to you.[/quote]

Did the kid ask you before he started experimenting with hookah in the first place?  "Mommy, can I smoke Johnny's hookah? Pleeaaasee!!"  "Well, o.k. son as long as you stick to the non-tobacco hookah".  "Thanks Mommy I will!".

Or did you find about him smoking hookah and THEN you laid down all the rules for "responsible" hookah smoking?

What makes you think he (or his friends) will obey your rules and stick within the parameters that YOU are comfortable with? If he's a little adult who is making decisions for himself why shouldn't he do what he wants to do?

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You sound crazy. It sounds like you have never taught your child how to make good decisions, so your only choice of action is to make mocking comments and rule with an iron fist. [/quote]

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