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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is 17 and he and his friends often smoke on the weekends. He's a good kid, good grades, no problems but I'm not sure about this...[/quote]
I'm with your husband on this. Pick your battles.[/quote]

You pick your battles over clothes, hair styles, and piercings. Where the health of a child is concerned it's not something to be flippant about. There is a  cancer  risk with hookah use. Cancer is a huge deal to me and something to fight about at any age.[/quote]

So your suggestion is to do what, exactly? Sternly state your disapproval? Have you ever met a 17-year-old? :roll:[/quote]

Yes and I also was one to quote my parents on the subject [b]your life doesn't start till your 18[/b]. There are ways to control your 17 year old.

But perhaps your cool with sitting bedside to your 25 year old while he battles cancer. [/quote]

Lol. Your attitude is the reason why kids go crazy in college, because they can finally try all the things sanctimonious mommy and daddy wouldn't let them try in high school. Your job as a parent is to help your child navigate all the difficult choices they must make in life, including the social positives of participating in hookah with friends vs. the negative health effects of smoking. If you categorically say no, your child will never learn the frameworks they need to make solid decisions once you are not around to guide them.[/quote]

What exactly are you saying?  You would tell your HS kid - "Eh, smoking is bad for you Sonny" and then allow him to disappear with his buddies into the basement to enjoy a little social hookah?  Maybe grab some beer. Maybe have some girls over...to you know.  Because that's fun too.

Kids already know damned well that smoking is bad for their health.  That message is everywhere.  If they are choosing to smoke regardless of the consequences that is a bad choice on their part.  And it is ridiculous of you, as a parent, to in any way/shape/form condone bad choices.

If they proceed to go off to college and get a little wild - they will be young adults and on their own watch.  They will also be HS grads with presumably good enough grades/academics/sense to be in college in the first place.  So old enough to "navigate" this stuff and make these types of decisions for themselves.

And btw, I actually went pretty wild/crazy in college so I know what I'm talking about.  [/quote]

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