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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I guess I was hopeful that once they saw that I was a good person, they'd feel differently.  [/quote]

You know this doesn't matter in evangelical Christianity, right?  Luke 18:19 -Why do you call me good?" Jesus answered. "No one is good--except God alone.[/quote]

I can see why this all makes you sad and angry, OP! Hugs.

It may help you not feel so badly (even when they are acting badly) to understand Evangelical world view, if you don't already. They probably don't hate you or think you are inferior - or if they do, that's just about them being miserable people. They probably think you and their grandchildren are going to burn in hell for ever and ever, though. And when you think of the absolute horror of believing that about people you love...ouch. So they believe their job is to save you and their grandkids, probably. It makes not a whit of difference to them if you are kind, loving, a wonderful mother and wife...because they believe all that matters to God is believing in Jesus. So, if they are saying Evangelical stuff to you - talking Jesus and religion and so forth - it might help to know that they aren't doing it because they hate you, but because they want to save you. I know that is eye rolling for most of us, but for fundamentalists it is literal. I know because I married into a fundie family (my husband ran far away from his church, though, so I'm in a different boat).

I agree with PPs who said you probably will have to limit contact if your inlaws can't stop the salvation talk, though. I'd take my mother or father in law aside and say "I appreciate your concern for my soul. I truly do. But I won't have this conversation any more, and you may not talk about it around my kids. Even if you believe you are being helpful, you are hurting all of us. Please stop."[/quote]

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