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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for the replies.  For what it's worth, I served her dishes and gritted my teeth and made an extra effort to be kind to her.  But I really appreciate the people who "get it" and empathized.

FWIW, Mac and cheese is not a traditional food in my DH's family.  She brought it because she has heard that my DS is on a Mac and cheese kick lately and she wanted to bring him something that was his favorite.  Since she knew I was cooking all day and she was asked to bring dessert, can you not see that it's an inconsiderate thing to do?

The history is, it's more than inconsiderate.  It's controlling and usurping.  But you'd sort of have to know MIL to know that. I'm just sick of it.  They are here every Sunday and she could have brought the Mac and cheese any time, but she wanted to be the one who cooked what my DS ate yesterday.

My DH always just wants to go away, the 3 of us, on holidays because he can't deal with his family and because he wants to avoid any conflicts with his mom.  I have always wanted holidays to be big extended family occasions but now that my parents and others are gone, I might just abandon the idea.  DH doesn't enjoy his family and I see why.  I don't enjoy them either.  So I may just have to adjust what "holidays" now mean.[/quote]

Please save this post for the future., and your curious why your son doesn't bring his gfs around and your dil thinks you all are miserable.[/quote]

Oh, please. Once he's older, Op's kid will be able to figure out grandma in a heartbeat. Without going into my situation, my kids definitely understand their grandma and her limitations. They also understand that we are building traditions within our own nuclear family and it will expand once they grow up and have their own families. Of course, I would have loved to share holidays with a large extended family but that is not our situation and we deal with it the best we can.[/quote]

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