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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - for what it is worth, some kids do better with the discipline that a sport provides.

I would also stop looking at results and stop looking at process.  The real issue you face is missed work. That has to stop.  I would take away a lot of autonomy. Make basketball tryouts contingent on working with you to keep a perfect agenda of up and coming assignments.  You can use google docs, a pad of paper, myhomeworkapp.com or whatever works.  Then you work with

The schools demand a ridiculous amount of skill to handle all the assignments coming at kids in seven different ways (paper, blackboard, google calendar, google classroom, and probably something else as well), through three different logins (blackboard, the school district, google classroom, and maybe something else), at random times (test reviews posted on the weekend??), on paper (handouts?), or yelled to the kids as they walk out the door.  At least for my kid (who has a good work ethic), it is just too much.  When left unassisted, he loses track and eventually falls into an abyss. With assistance, he stays on track, does his work unaided, and is a pleasure to live with.  [/quote]

Interesting. New to FCPS, it was months before we knew there was information posted on 24/7 system that was crucial to studying. Our HS DS (bright/ good student) didn't know about any of it and teachers exasperated with apparent indifference from bright kid. Clearly he needs some organizational work, but not sure best way to support integration of, as you say, info coming from 10 directions. Trying not to be held parents and having kid figure it out, but there's too much missing work that kid would have done, if he was able to keep track of assignments. Not blaming school. Trying to support kid. Yep. Electronics banned school evenings now.[/quote]

Im the PP.  We didn't know about some of this, too, when my son hit middle school.  I know what you mean about helicoptering, but it isn't helicoptering if you hold you child's hand firmly when teaching a kid to cross the street and this is the same.  Choose methods appropriate for where your kid is, even if it is behind where the school wants them to be.  don't ask your kid to figure it out on his own when that  school asks too much (and  too much means too much for the kid you got). Instead, teach him you have his back.  Also, teach him how to write appropriate emails to teachers.  It really matters when you are looking for assistance, but kids don't know how to do this.

It is very common to hire tutors for organizational skills.  These schools are very big, very chaotic, and very unforgiving places.  [/quote]

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