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I think it's healthy to have (non sexual) relationships with the same sex even if you're married. It's not so much as they "come first" as it's they are a just a different kind of relationship. 
This. I don't understand why people (usually women) feel the need to stifle or eliminate their spouse's friendships outside of the marriage. I isn't as if he is hanging out 3-4 times a week. Do you ever get together with your girlfriends? If not, you should.

BECAUSE IT'S ALL ABOUT ME ME ME ME!!!!!![/quote]

actually, he is hanging out 3 times a week, or was with the first kid. And rally, I think its the husband who is focused only on "ME ME ME."  His needs to work and then go out trumps everything else. He goes out 6 days after wife came home after c section; at that point i was not supposed to really go up stairs, much less care for baby and toddler. He is the father of a young kid and goes out 2 or 3 nights a week drinking?! OP says she hadn't seen her own friends for 3 months plus. Yes, its healthy for both people in a marriage to have friendships outside of marriage and to have time alone but if you have young kids, going drinking with a buddy 2 or 3 times a week (which is a compromise, it used to be 4, according to OP) is nuts. If he's working 55 hours a week, that means he is pretty much gone in the mornings and early evenings, or working weekend days, leaving him precious little time for the family, and he chooses to spend that drinking with one particular buddy. Why is everyone jumping on the OP? Her request that her husband actually participate in family life does not, to me, seem extreme. [/quote]

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