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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how do you know your best friend wouldn't return the favor?  Have you ever asked?  Otherwise, how can she be your best friend if you can't talk to her about it?  [/quote]

She claims my kids get nervous around her boys (I have 2 little girls who are shy). [/quote]

Then she shouldn't dump her boys on you and your girls![/quote]

Fully agree. It is true that my girls are fine when I'm there and can keep everyone in check. I love her boys- but I don't want extra work so other people can save a little bit of money or relax when it's at my expense AND it was done in a sneaky way. If she asked me up front, that she wanted to have some quality time with her husband, and could I please help her, I would and have babysat for free. But I don't appreciate it when I'm put in a position where I can't say no(she did not answer her phone when I called and she was gone for 4 hours). It was also very inconvenient and I did not appreciate the disrespectful way she just assumed I could drop everything and stay home all day with her kids. [/quote]

She is disrespectful, among other things.  OP, you need to say something ASAP - or just not be available for her.  Her needing a free babysitter is not your problem.  My friend had a neighbor like this.  When my friend said "no more" to free babysitting (after having enough; and because the neighbor had family close by who had also had enough) - the neighbor turned against her.  No love lost.

It really doesn't matter how much you love your friend's children. Your friend is inappropriate.  Also, I am curious how you handle the special needs?  Did she tell you what to do/how to handle it?  At the very least?  [/quote]

To be honest, I don't really know how to handle the special needs kid. And that is part of the reason why it is so uncomfortable for the boys at my house when they're "dumped" by their mom.  They are wonderful boys, but he has significant needs and if something were to happen I would have no idea what to do. My friend claims her oldest can take care of the special needs boy, but this is not quite true. It's really unfair for the boys most of all. They KNOW the drill- mom says she will be right back and several hours she is still gone.  At the very least they are comfortable at my house, but when it is someone they barely know (best friend burns through her friends quickly), they hate it.

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