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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why should he have to travel--something he doesn't like to do--because of your choices?

His generous willingness to pay for your family to fly to see him is his way of showing that he cares.

I have a dear friend who is disappointed I won't fly to Amsterdam to see her after she moved there four years ago. Sorry, I've already been to Amsterdam, so my overseas travel--and the expense and time it takes to travel abroad--will be spent elsewhere. I'm happy to meet her in London or something, but no--your choice to move far away. I'll see you here in the States when you visit family.[/quote]

This is what my inlaws think. Since we moved away (for our jobs), we should always be the one who comes home and she never needs to visit us. [/quote]

OP you are choosing to move away so the burden falls on you. His offer to fly you home is very generous. Be grateful. [/quote]

PP that you quoted- I was being sarcastic. In no way is it okay that my inlaws don't visit us and think we should visit them only. We're only 2 hours away though, not the long plane ride to Australia. [/quote]

Why are you comparing a 2-hour flight situation to an Australia or an Amsterdam situation? Those aren't the same dynamics AT ALL. [/quote]

I was stating our experience because it's common for parents to think that visits only go one way. And that they shouldn't have to travel to see their children or grandchildren. [/quote]

Right, but OP is essentially asking for feedback on what should be expected/what and who is "right" in this case.

In your case of a domestic, 2-hour flight, probably fairly reasonably priced flight, you are "right" to expect able-bodied, financially secure grandparents to visit at least SOME of the time.

In OP's case of an international, 16-hour, very expensive flight, she is not "right" to expect anyone to visit, regardless of health, finances, etc. ESPECIALLY when her father has offered to pay for her family to fly to see him.[/quote]

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