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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's rude to give a wish list unless they ask for one.[/quote]

I agree with this but I also think its wasteful to end up returning a bunch of crap that nobody wanted for a couple years.  We ended up having a conversation with both our parents, everyone agreed to scale back the volume/expense of the presents, and exchange a short list of things we like.  I'm pretty sure my ILs never would have known which GoT books to pick up for me and I never would have known what to get my FIL.

I guess we're just more pragmatic.  After a few years of Sushi-scented Yankee Candles, why would you let your ILs continue to waste their money?[/quote]

You may have tried this, but MIL would send me random stuff.

WHen I asked why the battery pack for my brand new car, or why insect repellant strips when we don't camp....
She explained in a long way about how she saw these as ways to protect my kids (from being stranded on the roadside, or from West Nile Virus...) she her health issues made it hard for her to go out and shop. She was limited to QVC and the drug store.

She also sent things so I'd call and ask her about it. She wanted the time and conversation.
On the one hand it felt like I was being judged, but when I was feeling more emapathy, I realized she needed to express herself more than my kids needed the #1 thing on their list.

Sometimes I would buy something for my kid and talk to her about it, and say, "Can I make this from you? He really was excited about it and I need to be stern because he doesn't need it.  Can I make you the "good cop" here?"  She appreciated that.[/quote]

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