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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Insight from the other side:

My SIL and brother cut ties with my family because my husband did not call them from the delivery room after the birth of our 2nd child. They said since we did not have the decency to call them immediately we obviously did not consider them family so that would be the last we would be hearing from them. I was always kind to my SIL, but I guess she might have had issues with us that I was oblivious of as to make a break. My parents and siblings are devastated that our family is broken.

I miss my brother very much, and have tried to reach out but my SIL wants no contact and I don't want to put my brother in that situation.  The ball is in his court.   [/quote]
If your story is true and this came out of nowhere, [i]there is something very wrong with your brother[/i].  He's either a complete asshole (which you would probably know by now) or in an abusive situation.[/quote]

It rarely comes out of nowhere.  It's not unusual for a last straw to be insignificant sounding.  But what people don't realize is that it's one thing in a long list of grievances that have not been addressed.[/quote]

Exactly. If the people on the other side of the story would be asked why all the people posting in this thread don't speak to them, I'm sure it would be some innocent reason that is jaded. It's all in the eye of the beholder. 
You may think he cut ties because of lack of one phonecall, but I bet if he was asked, there'd be more to the story. [/quote]

PP here -- I hope there is more to the story, but I would appreciate knowing the other details if they existed, but did not get a response.  I called in the morning after breakfast (baby was born at 4am), which is when everyone was called.  I just hope one day hearts can be mended, I miss my brother, and my children would love to see their cousins.  Such a sad situation.

I guess the bottom line is -- if someone asks why, please respond.   Thanks for letting me hijack this thread for a bit by sharing the other side.[/quote]

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