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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay so my brother finally got back to me.
He said he was glad that me and DH like him, our opinion meant a lot to him.
So I kind of tease him about that and ask him how things are going between them now that they've hit the 3 month  marker.
He says really well, and he's  considering bringing him by on Thanksgiving.
I'm teasing again and tell him that's kind of a serious move, and he comes back with maybe I'm kind of serious about him.
He hasn't replied to my request to explain himself.

My question is, assuming he's not pulling my leg, how can he be serious about him?
I  also think Thanksgiving is a bad idea.
[u]1. Some of our extended family still aren't comfortable with  my brother being gay, not that I think he should hide it, but I don't think it's worth the potential drama for a BF of 3 months.[/u]
2. I think it's way to soon for him to meet parents and grandparents etc.
3.  Back to my original concern about the differences in education etc. He is going to stick out, and certain family members will not have a problem questioning him. I do not want my brother to be humiliated.

Is 42 the age for a midlife crisis?[/quote]

Your extended family needs to eff off.  Their comfort is irrelevant.  And whoever is hosting Thanksgiving should make that clear.  Also, would you say that three months is too short if he were heterosexual and bringing a girlfriend?  My DH and I married after 3 months, and that was 16 yrs and 3 kids ago.

[b]I think you have more issues with it than you want to admit.[/quote][/b]

I honestly don't. I long suspected my brother was gay long before he came out 10 years ago. That was a tough time in our family, but I was there for him, to the point of nearly cutting certain family members off so don't accuse me of being a homophobe.
I thought it was tacky when my cousin brought his gf of 3 months to Thanksgiving two years because she was the one and needed to know the family. Surprise, surpirse they are no longer together.

Last year it was another drama.   I don't want drama.

But mostly I'm worried about my brother, but as others have so nicely pointed it out I can't  say anything or I'm being a stuck up bitch.
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