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[quote=Anonymous]OP, for our 3 year old, it was mostly a case of acting out to try to feel more in control and because he was angry and felt like we weren't respecting him especially as he wants to be more independent. When we came down like a ton of bricks (lots of time outs, yelling) it just pissed him off and made him act out more.  We focused on praising good behavior (speaking politely) and set up a rewards chart.  We still give time outs for hitting etc. Calmly ignoring the other stuff without a fuss will extinguish it faster than getting angry because that rewards the bad behavior with attention and gives the kid the satisfaction of pissing you off.  I thought the positive discipline stuff was nonsense until I realized that a lot of my kid's deliberate bad behavior is his way of trying to piss us off because he feels like we're being harsh or arbitrary.  When he calmly explain that the thing he wants to do is dangerous or too loud or whatever the problem is, he's much more open to listening to us. [/quote]

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