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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This guy I'm dating keeps asking to be exclusive. We have been dating for maybe 6 weeks? I do like him but I think 6 weeks is too soon. I would like to get to know him a little more first. [b]I'm conflicted because I do like him, but I've been hurt in the past. I don't want to wind up in a situation where he splits because he takes my lack of exclusivity as disinterest.[/b] He's really a good guy, and I'm not seeing other guys. He's a good guy but there is alway some small doubt of motive. I haven't slept with him and won't until we are are exclusive. He knows this. He has asked and been pushy for exclusivity for about two week now. I'm conflicted. [/quote]

just tell him the truth; that you want to play the field and you are not ready of exclusivity. It is not fair to him that you are stringing him along while you are waiting to see if you can find something better. [/quote]

+1  I've been in this situation, and if you tell me you don't want exclusivity you are telling me bluntly that "I want to be able to see other people" and I am the kind of good guy who listens to you, takes you at your word, and can handle rejection. So I take that that as "ok, you're not that into me, and I'm going to keep seeing other people too".  You might not [i]want[/i] to have to be direct about "I don't want sex yet" and you might [i]want[/i] to use exclusivity as an excuse or an alternate way of saying it, but he is not a mind reader.

If the issue is that you aren't ready to have sex, then just tell him that.  "We can be exclusive, but I'm not ready to be physically intimate yet.  I've been hurt in the past so I want to go slow."  See?  Not hard.  Use your words.  If you don't, then don't be surprised when he applies Occam's razor and d[b]ecides you aren't really into him and he goes and finds someone who is. [/b] [/quote]

This would probably be best for , OP. Something is off with this guy. Yes there are the rare gems, but more often than not a guy who demands to be exclusive after a short period of time or moves quickly, there is something wrong. It is a warning sign.
The other mentioned here is that he is a serial dater.
OP, given your history of selecting jerks I would  cut ties with the current bf, and think strongly about talking to a therapist about why you continuously select a certain type of guy. I also think you should put a moratorium on dating for 6 months while working on self, you didn't ask it, but it's my 2 cents.[/quote]

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