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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you seen your GYN to check if you have a medical condition? It could be a hormonal imbalance or depression, both of which are treatable.

OP, you have to do what you can to make the sex work because marriage is not friendship or a business arrangement. It's a ROMANTIC relationship. You have to accept that like a grownup if you want to stay married. If this is your problem, which it is, you have to solve it.[/quote]

OP here- yes testosterone levels are normal. Probably some depression given 2 deaths in my immediate family over the last two years, including my mother

I understand the need for romance but it is a two way street. If DH wants to feel desired, he needs to work with me to find a style/mood/time/place to help me go from mom to wife. I am just not that good at flipping that switch as soon as son is asleep

PLEASE-someone give me some reassurance that we can make it through this. So many posts just recommend affairs or divorce-not excited for either prospect[/quote]

A two way street? I can appreciate that you're saying that with a straight face. That takes balls. You are the master of your sexuality. You are the one who needs to fix it. You have been rejecting his advances, now you're telling him you'd reconsider if only he were putting in the effort. It's not his fault. Believing it is will destroy your marriage in a jiffy. I understand you feel hurt by his betrayal, but you're not even considering what your betrayal did to him.

I had sex drive issues after my first baby. I felt bad about it and my postpartum baby for almost a year, then I decided my happiness and relationship were getting destroyed by it. I decided an overhaul was necessary. I started watching porn and reading erotica. I made it a point to fantasize routinely. I lifted weights, and I had a drink before sex so I could relax a little. It worked pretty quickly, and I found my groove.

In that year, I did serious damage to my relationship in that year. Damage that was ultimately irreparable. It's a lot more difficult to let little things roll off your back and appreciate your partner when you're not having sex. [/quote]

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