Reply to If you had an affair, did you bury your feelings?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "If you had an affair, did you bury your feelings?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's morning the loss of his lover.  It's natural.  Give him time.  Back off or you won't have a marriage. He will come around. 
[/quote]

This is very true. He liked who he was with his AP. He wants to be with you, but you can't turn feelings off (or on) like a tap. Stick around. Do date nights, figure out what it is you need and the things he needs to feel loving (e.g. the 5 love languages) And do them, even if they feel awkward. Eventually, they will become more normal, and not forced.

Yes, the affair was his fault, completely. He knows that. But there was something in your marriage that allowed that space to open up that allowed him to go outside your marriage for emotional and sexual comfort. You both need to work on that.

This takes time. Lots of time. I can tell you if I'd moved out after my affair I would not be married right now. Because that constant "together time" is just helpful. Awkward. Unpleasant sometimes. But necessary.[/quote]

Right, but you felt awkward and unpleasant because you cheated. OP is a complete mess over this, and watching her husband mourn the loss of his lover is making it worse. He needs to do that in private, because it's hurting OP even more. And again, if he can't use this separation to repair himself and his marriage, OP is better off without him.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics