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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Full disclosure: I'm a teacher, but this isn't a vent. I am just trying to understand the motivation and the moral rationale of lying to teachers. Doesn't it do more harm to your DC in the long run? Not to mention the damage done to the parent-teacher relationship when the teacher either knows off the bat you are lying or learns the truth later. I guess I see it the same as lying to your child's pediatrician ("Of course, Larlo had the measles vaccine. Your records must be wrong! Just fill out the preschool form.") or dentist ("I [i]swear[/i] Larla flosses!"). Wait... do parents lie to the pediatrician and dentist, too?  My kids [i]never[/i] floss. It's embarrassing, but the dentist can tell anyway so why embarrass all three of us by lying? In some weird almost counter-intuitive way, am I actually failing in my parental duty by not lying for my kids since so many others are doing it? [/quote]

The lies I've been told as a teacher are mostly about reasons for a week off (they don't want to admit it's Disney), an address change (they don't want to change schools), or have been by illegal immigrants just in general not trusting any authority with any information, from a work place to a phone number.

Now teachers lying to parents....that takes it to a whole new level.  I've heard teachers insist they took actions to stop bullying that they never took and don't plan to take, have heard them swear they let the kid use the bathroom whenever he wants and they don't know why he goes in his pants every day, when actually they strictly forbid use of the bathroom for up to 4 hours at a time, and have heard many of them try to make the child sound like he or she is at fault for some misbehavior, while completely omitting their own part in it.  I've heard teachers deny that incidents occurred and insist the child is lying, when I saw the incident occur with my own eyes.  I've heard them insist the child is at fault when the child is a victim of bullying (by the teacher's pet).  Have heard them deny that a sexual assault by another student took place, when I saw it take place and so did the teacher.  Some of these lies were even told at the insistence of the principal.  So don't talk about the damage to the parent-teacher relationship to me - I know better than to trust teachers without question, and you should too. [/quote]

Are you the OP?[/quote]

NO - the second part was mine and I am not OP.[/quote]

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