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[quote=Anonymous]Jesus, people.  68 is still 68.  It's not middle age.  It's elderly.  So, some people live to be 98. Some people die at 69 and it's considered to be death by natural causes.

My mom was 68 a few years ago and I had no patience wth her inability to travel, to socialize, to care for herself.  By comparison, my dad worked to 80 and her sisters, both 10 years older, drove, lived at home, and had full social lives.   We movedmy mom into assisted living because she couldn't handle things like shopping and cooking anymore. And I was so frustrated because 68 is young these days, right?

No.  68 is still old.  She died last month at 73 from complications from progressive dementia.  She had widespread brain atrophy at the time of her death.

Turns out she had been doing her best, even thoughogs of others manage to be much more functional at older ages.  I'm sorry I was such an impatient asshole to her all those years.  I'm sorry I interpreted her fragility as laziness and her neediness as selfishness.

Your mom may be doing the best she can.  You do the same and just try to love her while you have a mom.[/quote]

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