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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That you have kids the same age means you know what your kids like at those ages, which is not necessarily the same thing as knowing what her kids like at those ages. She's trying to give you ideas for things that are likely to be a hit with her kids so they'll enjoy the gifts; you seem more focused on getting something you will enjoy giving than on whether her particular children will like them. It's certainly your prerogative to get in a snit about it and just send a check, but I'd rather be the aunt who got them presents they loved.[/quote]

Devils advocate here: isn't sending $$ being the aunt who gets them presents they love? Just cutting out the step forced by the sister to do all the shopping/ordering for her. What is the difference? Mom orders from Amazon with sisters money or sister orders from Amazon.[/quote]

The difference is that's not being the aunt who gets them presents they love, that's being the aunt who cuts them a check. It's pretty boring to open a check on your birthday or Christmas; it may be fun to spend it a week or a month later, but it's not fun or interesting in the moment. And when they finally get around to spending the money, they're probably not connecting the thing they picked out with you anyway, because you didn't pick it out for them.[/quote]

This op nailed it. I'm in both sides. While my kids have almost everything I would love for you to pick a gift for them that they want instead of a duplicate or something they are not into.

Now for Christmas I have three sets of grandparents. One who sends checks who the kids never speak of. One set who sends things they think the kids will like. FaceTime is awful for this watching their unhappy reaction. The final set will ask us what they want and will mail it or have us buy to put under the tree from them while they send money. The kids shriek with delight and love love love them.

I know it's not what it the thought that counts and they are grateful but truthfully they are kids too.

Be a super awesome aunt and send them what they want! :) buy what you want for an Easter or Halloween gift or s just random thinking of you Love Aunt Larla!

Good luck![/quote]

your kids have a funny way of judging who they love[/quote]

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