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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has a professional degree from a top school.  Think JD or MBA from Harvard.  Or MD from Harvard or Hopkins.  He was in the top 5% 
in his class.  Now he's probably easily in the bottom 5% of his school's graduates in terms of income.   He works a government job that
he could easily have gotten with a degree from anywhere.  We paid a zillion dollars for his degree and he worked really hard to get it.

Our lives are crazy because we're both chasing our tails trying to work full time (we can't live off his salary), raise kids and make ends meet.
I resent him for this.  I'm finally admitting it.  We've passed 40 and our lives could be so different if 10 years ago he 
would have taken a different path professionally.  I feel like I would resent him LESS if he has just gone somewhere 
middle-of-the-road for school and then continued on on his government path.  It just seems to me that he wasted a great opportunity.

Anyone relate?

Go ahead and slam me for this.  I'm sure i deserve it.  
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Yes.  You do deserve it.  Is his path meaningful?  Is he helping people instead of lining the pockets of some corporate fortune 500 company who doesn't want to be liable for X,y, or Z?  Is he helping veterans instead of in a concierge practice helping wealthy people who could easily find other doctors?

Also, government jobs are not so "EASY" to get. Although pedigree counts less in some agencies, it counts a lot more in others, so it's not so likely he would have gotten that govt job without the pedigree.

Also, do you see your husband?  Is he there for your children?  If you are finding it difficult to put food on the table, then maybe you need to look at spending habits - and not live your life like you are expecting to have a gold-plated bidet handed to you next year.

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