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[quote=Anonymous]As a survivor of abuse myself, I think your fiance needs to decide how he wants to deal with his abuse, and you need to decide if you can support him in whatever he decides. However, you should discuss the implications for any kids you might have, and make sure you're on the same page as far as boundaries. I was abused by my stepfather. I told my DH about it pretty early in the relationship, and also had counseling. I couldn't stand being around my stepfather, but did see him occasionally so I could maintain a relationship with my mother. Once we got engaged, I told my mother about the abuse, because I did not want my stepfather at my wedding. Once my son was born, I told my mom that he could never be around her husband. This resulted in my mom only seeing her grandson twice in the first three years, until my stepfather died a couple of years ago. My DH didn't like being around my stepfather even before we had kids (and in our case, visits were rare, as I also tried to limit contact while still seeing my mother occasionally), but he was always supportive of how I wanted to handle it. Your situation seems a bit different since your fiance seems to have a closer relationship with his family, so I would suggest talking very seriously about boundaries regarding children before you move forward.[/quote]

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