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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something is wrong when he still wants to engage with his abuser. I'd really be careful getting into a marriage with him. He needs therapy before you can marry him. [/quote]

A lot is wrong and there's no point in OP waiting out his therapy if he ever does it because it will take DECADES for him to finish, if ever.

Listen, not only is this guy still interacting with his abuser, he is probably still having sex with his abuser.

The fiancee might also be an abuser of children himself.

The entire family is fucked up, they probably all know about the abuse, they are all covering it up.

It sounds like a complete nightmare and OP owes her fiancee NOTHING.

OP, just cut this guy out of your life and move on and don't look back.  Don't waste any more of your life with this situation.[/quote]

Op here, Have you never been in love with someone? I can't just leave him because something his father did.
It's not easy to just walk away, and I don't want to yet. We haven't talked about  future boundaries, because this all new- to me.
I did get very upset with him, we fought over this, but then I realized that wasn't fair to him.
[b]I don't know if he'll go to therapy, he hasn't wanted to talk about it since Saturday when he told me, which is partially my fault since I yelled at him for not telling me the whole truth earlier.[/b][/quote]

You don't know if your fiance will go into therapy.  He hasn't wanted to talk about it since he told you a few days ago.  You are worried about not making waves with his family before the holiday get-togethers.

He and his family and his stepdad who is/was the abuser fooled you into thinking that they were a happy family...

You are setting yourself up for misery. [/quote]

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