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Because you had one friend like this you know more than those of us who are Indian-Americn who grew up with traditional Indian immigrant parents?  Such hubris.[/quote]

Oh come on.  I had an Indian American best friend, and hung out with her and a lot of her Indian American girl friends and they ALL complained-joked about how strict their parents were with them (but not their brothers).  Some more than others, but still.   They weren't allowed to go to sleepovers (except with other Indian kids), to go out with a bunch of kids, to date, or to go on school ski trips or school overnight trips.

I also knew this friend when we went to college together and saw her and her Indian American friends there (in the Indian American Club) where they talked about getting away from their overly protective parents.

Am I saying they all were not allowed to go to a teens house for an academic club. No that seems extreme.   But there was a level of more over protectiveness than was considered usual for the rest of the kids in our town or area. That's for sure.
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Eh, I really do think it depends on your individual experience. My (Indian) parents were very traditional. They were completely fine with going to friends' houses, sleepovers, etc.,...until maybe end of middle school. Then they got super strict because they didn't like that American kids dated so much (or that's what my parents saw on TV). It was pretty shocking to have tons of freedom and then not have too much.

With that said, they never ever stopped me from doing anything academic or extra-curricular activity-related. I was allowed to do anything school-related, but I couldn't just go out with friends to the mall on Friday, etc. I don't know any Indian person who would want to put their child at a disadvantage like that; most Indian parents I know want their kids to have the competitive edge, ha. I would think that any parent who's that strict wouldn't even allow their daughter to do any extra-curriculars.

You should just talk to the coach/school and say the situation doesn't work. They do sound like recent immigrants, maybe in the last couple years? [/quote]

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