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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not OP, but for purposes of discussion, I recently had a similar issue.  Let me preface this by saying that I'm not anti-CIO/sleep training at all and did it with my daughter.

I recently had a friend who did the extinction method with her barely three month old.  Started the week after the kid turned three months.  Based on the numerous books I had read on the topic, I felt that this was much too young and really agonized over whether to talk to her about it. Essentially, I just wanted to tell her what I had read and make sure she had thought it through, talked to her doc, etc.  Essentially, just wanted to know that SOMEONE with some knowledge about this stuff had told her it was okay.

I ended up not saying anything. My reasons were (1) she and I are not THAT close, she's more of a friend of a friend, though we do have a great time when we see each other; and (2) I know that she and her husband are great parents in general and are crazy about the kid.

Still not sure I did the right thing, but I'm pretty sure the kid won't be screwed up forever.

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This seems like a reasonable approach.  While I completely agree with you that this is too young, it's hard to know the exact circumstances.  Maybe her kid had no problem with it and thus there was very little crying.  Or maybe she was suffering from serious health or mental health problems because of lack of sleep and it's ultimately better for the well-being of the child that the mom start getting more sleep so she can be a good mom, and this was the only option.  Not ideal, but certainly better than ending up super depressed and hurting your child in the future or something![/quote]

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