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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, this is perfectly in line with what's been going on since the dawn of time.  It's not like he is evil and she needs protecting. Let your DD handle it. [/quote]

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I think there are clearly some boy-haters out there, or at least parents of only girls who are incredibly biased against boys.  This boy did the equivalent of passing her a note saying he liked her.  She replied, no thank you (I do think she should've dropped the snarky, "Umm".  No need to be rude.).  Other than that, this is not a harassment scenario, for crying out loud.  The boy took it very well and sounds like a good guy.  I'm sure his feelings were hurt, though - that's only natural, just as hers would have been hurt had the situation been reversed.  It would have been kinder to leave out the snarkiness and just give him the straightforward, "No thanks."

Those of you with daughters, how would you feel if yours had told a boy she liked him, and he had responded, "Ummm, no thank you."  I'm sure your daughter's feelings would have been crushed and I imagine you, as a parent, would hurt for them.  Give this boy a break.[/quote]

I have a 12 yr old DD and she probably wouldn't read the ummm as snarky in a text and can't think of one of her friends boy or girl who would. They aren't there yet and still tend to think literally.

And if my Df got such a message? So what? I wouldn't be hurt over it at all. I'd she was, I wouldn't try and not let her be hurt or upset. Things like this will happen a thousand times between now and adulthood. She needs to be able to cope with not nice behavior from boys and girls alike.

To the OP - DO NOT try and micromanage your child's dating/relationship life. It only leads to disaster. Stay out of it unless explicitly asked for help or unless of course you happen to notice any violence/abuse. [/quote]

If my daughter got a message like that and her feelings were hurt, sure, I'd feel badly for her, because no one likes to see their child sad.  But romantic rejection is part of life.  I want her to be resilient, to learn to accept that sometimes attraction doesn't match up like we'd like it to.  I want her to hear and respect someone's no, just like I want others to hear and respect her no.  I want her to learn to say no when she means no, to be polite but not feel like she's responsible for other people's feelings.  [/quote]

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