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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on your view), once per week is normal.  Stats show 67% of married couples in their 30s have sex once a week or less, meaning only 1/3rd do it more than once a week.  When you reach your 40s, its only about 20% of married men having sex more than once a week, far more have sex less than once a week.  As a higher libido DH, I find it depressing, but once a week sex is definitely normal. [/quote]

It might be the norm but a healthy sex life is defined by 3 times weekly.[/quote]

By whom?  A healthy sex life is whatever sex life [b]the two people involved [/b]are happy with.  [/quote]

Seems simple enough, but the bolded is the crux of the problem.  There is usually an imbalance there.  My DW is fond of telling me how her friends are all similarly inclined to have sex no more frequently than once per week or less with once a month seeming to be the sweet spot for most of these ladies.  All I can think of of when she says it is, "I feel truly sorry for the poor bastards they married."  [/quote]

[b]DH here, who has a high libido and would love sex every day.  Yes, our wives travel in same circles, and she tells me that us having sex one per week was normal, even high since most of her friends say once a month or so.

I checked the stats, she is right.  So on one hand, I completely agree with you - what matters most is not frequency but that both spouses are on the same page.  But on the other hand, I can at least rationally accept that once a week - as depressing as that is - is as good or better than what the majority of people are doing.[/quote][/b][u][/quote]

The problem with statistics is they are meaningless to individual cases.  That stat is also easily countered by citing other statistics such as the alarmingly high divorce rate.  Think there might be a correlation between such a low average frequency of sex among married couples and the high rates of divorce and infidelity? [/quote]

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