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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How close are you to both her parents?  Is there any chance of severe punishment, namely abuse?  But that's how it went down in my neighborhood growing up, when parents found out a girl was having sex.   Dads usually beat the crap out of them.  If you don't think that's a likelihood, tell. If you do, approach the girl if you can.  Or a school counselor.[/quote]

There would be no abuse but I do know this would be taken as very shameful and a very grave disappointment. They would not want anyone to know this was taking place in their family. Her mother is one of my closest friends and I know that she would be humiliated by this. This is why my first reaction was both to call her immediately and to take a pause and think about if this is the right thing to do.[/quote]

Yikes. Sounds like those parents are only going to add to this problem. If I knew that their MO would be to shame the girl and focus on their own humiliation then I might not say anything. [/quote]

I agree.  This complicates it greatly.[/quote]

No it doesn't.  You still need to tell them.  No matter what the mom does, it can't be worse than leaving this alone and letting the 13 year old girl continue what she's doing and possibly getting pregnant or getting an std or settling into a routine where having sex at 13 is normal.  The girl can get over a little shaming about sex from her parents if that's what happens -- that's what happened to a lot of US as slightly older kids and we generally got over it.  The other stuff is a much bigger hurdle to get past.  TELL THE MOM.[/quote]

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