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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I were together for a long time before we married. Suddenly, after we married all of his family duties were left to me. I put up with it until I had kids. Managing my kids' schedules and relationships with my own family were enough. DH's family of origin was left to him. Like other posters have observed, it's just too much. Like others, I'd hand the phone to him to answer his relatives' questions. When there was a family event, it was up to him to orchestrate with his family.

Here's how I put it: if they want to see you. If you want to see them, you have to talk to them directly, just like you would to me, to your friends, to our kids' friends. If you really want to see them, you'll make an effort.

Guess what? He never sees them.

Is it my fault? Absolutely not. My hands are full.

Do I feel guilty anyway? Frequently. That's societal brainwashing. It has to stop.

When DH wants to see his family, he will. If not, that's his choice.

To put it in cliche form: I'm his wife, not his mother.[/quote]

And Any MIL and FILs who would complain should recognize THEY raised their son![/quote]

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