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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was also duped  by a married guy. We only dated a few months, but being deceived by someone like that rocked me to my core. (Turns out he lied about the most stupid stuff, along with telling me he was divorced with 2 kids, when he was married with 3 WTF?!?) It really does mess with your head.

The DW contacted me 5-6 months after we broke up because he was "transferred" overseas. I told her everything. (Turns out the f-er gave me her jewelry as a birthday gift). As much as my world turned upside-down (how can you ever trust anyone ever again?!?!), I know her world had just blown up. So we talked on the phone a few times, we were going to meet, but she backed out.

A few years later, she called me and asked if I would talk to her divorce lawyer. She had tried to make the marriage work until it became obvious that he was a liar and a cheat to his bones. Then the SOB was trying to get 100% custody of the kids. I told the divorce lawyer everything. Men like him just can't win, ever and we women have to help each other.

I understand she was mean to you. But can you see that she was just a wounded woman who was trying to save her marriage. As bad as your pain is, her's is 1,000 times worse. I know it is scary because you don't know what she wants or if she is going to try to hurt you. But I don't think she will lash out at you. She realizes that he is a lying SOB and she just needs a shoulder to cry on.

You don't owe her anything. But for me, how could I turn my back on another woman in pain? Set some boundaries: only do phone calls, or never do phone calls and just meet in public, let her know you aren't a therapist and encourage her to get one, let her know the contact will be short-term and she needs to find another support system for the long-term. [/quote]

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