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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you might be a great fit for the 6 year old.

I too would caution/advise against adopting both children at the same time. As others have said, their special needs, while not impossible, aren't insignificant and although I'm not of the belief that all adopted children automatically have attachment issues, I think you'd be wise to proceed with the assumption that the 6 year old probably will.  Parenting two special needs kids who are newly adopted and adjusting to a new country/language/culture is going to come at the expense of one of those children.

I adopted my first child internationally and had a second child a year and 2 days after I brought the first one home.  Without going into detail, I deliberately made certain decisions that negatively impacted my second child for the good of my first child and our family overall.  Neither of my kids has special needs either.  I can't imagine being caught between two newly adopted children who are such different ages.  I know you want to get it over and done with and I can see the temptation in that, but really you have to think of what's best for the kids AND for yourself.

Good luck.[/quote]

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