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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have sort of the opposite problem from OP. I was raised in a Conservative shul and it's what I know and love. We go to High Holidays services without fail, occasionally go to Shabbat or Saturday morning services, and will enroll our kids when they're old enough. But we won't join until the kids need Hebrew school because (a) it's too expensive and (b) we really only want the services. We have tried a few times to meet people at shul but we never click with them. It's like they're too Jewish for us. We don't keep kosher or Shabbat and we have lots of non-Jewish friends. When we meet other couples our age at shul, it's like their life revolves around shul. They do Shabbat every week and they have big get togethers and they go on religious retreats and they talk about Israel all the time. That's just not us. When we read the offerings for different groups or meetings or whatever, none of them ever appeal to us. And if one does, we don't have the time. We really just want to go to shul and that's it.[/quote]

Is it surprising that the people who you see in shul most outside the High Holidays are the ones for whom Judaism is a very salient part of their lives?   I was going to suggest Reconstructionism  for someone who wants a traditional service but is uncomfortable with expectations of observing kashrut (though plenty of very involved C Jews do not observe kashrut strictly at all) but I think there you would find even more people dong Shabbat regularly, going to retreats, and talking about Israel (if from a more leftwing POV)

I mean that is what Judaism is - something that is very much about the home, about involvement outside Synagogue services. The idea of going to services regularly, and not doing much else, is a Protestant model.  Maybe there are still some classical Reform Temples like, that, but even within Reform that would be a minority.  [/quote]

Judaism is a very salient part of my life, and the lives of my family. We just never got much involved with the Jewish community beyond services. And every time I try, I find myself really not liking the people I meet at shul. Oh well.[/quote]

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