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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The goal of foster care is reunification.  [b]The kids generally who are freed for adoption already have significant issues.[/b]  I would go for China if your true goal is adoption.  [/quote]

Wrong.

Kids "without issues" get freed for adoption all the time - but 80% of the time they're adopted by their foster parents.  So OP is right, she'd have to be on board with fostering and all that that entails (ie reunification) and just be open to the possibility of adoption.

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No, wrong - I worked in foster care for many years.  Some kids get adopted by foster parents, some not.  The majority are coming from families/parents with significant substance abuse and mental health issues.  Most didn't get good prenatal care and the impact of the substance abuse can be significant but not seen till later.  Also, some mental health issues do not arise till later on.  Kids generally are not legally freed until they are placed in a permanent home, although some states do legally free kids prior - you do not have to adopt via the system through your state.  Generally there is a reason why many kids are hard to adopt.  Some can do very well in the right home, but its pure luck and impossible to guess which ones (the more open workers are the better success).[/quote]

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