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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband had an affair, which I figured out about a month ago.  We have been dealing with it and I have run the gamut of emotions.  Most of the time, I think I will try to work through it.  He swears it is over now and I had both of us tested for STDs (thankfully, negative).  Sometimes, however, I just want to run away or kick him out.  It's obviously still very early after the discovery, though I suspected the affair for months before he admitted it.

For some bizarre reason, I am still having sex with him.  We have had a good sex life throughout the last couple of years of our marriage and even during the affair, and I don't want to give that up because my sex drive was really low for a long time and I really appreciate having it back.  There is also probably some sort of bonding / connection with the sex.  It's a familiar thing that is oddly comforting.

Is it crazy that I don't want to stop sleeping with him?  One unfortunate side effect of the affair is that I will get a mental image of him with the other woman while we are in the act sometimes and it is really, really disturbing.  Will I be totally horrified by my behavior later on - like where is my integrity and self respect?  I've already lost so much and I don't want to lose sex too (full disclosure, he is very skilled in that department - I feel pretty sleazy even writing this!).[/quote]

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Are you of the belief that sex is something that a man "does" to a woman? That she  "gives it up" to him? That's sad.[/quote]

let's not be so dense.  what's sad is that she knows her husband has cheated and yet she's sleeping with him - so what's the real message here?  Go fuck around behind my back with at least one other woman, and even though I know about it, I'll still fuck you too?  There's not exactly a lot of self-respect there.[/quote]
She wants to have sex with him, she not forcing herself to. She's getting something out of it, not lying back and thinking of England. Her self-respect is firmly intact.[/quote]

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