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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband had an affair, which I figured out about a month ago.  We have been dealing with it and I have run the gamut of emotions.  Most of the time, I think I will try to work through it.  He swears it is over now and I had both of us tested for STDs (thankfully, negative).  Sometimes, however, I just want to run away or kick him out.  It's obviously still very early after the discovery, though I suspected the affair for months before he admitted it.

For some bizarre reason, I am still having sex with him.  We have had a good sex life throughout the last couple of years of our marriage and even during the affair, and I don't want to give that up because my sex drive was really low for a long time and I really appreciate having it back.  There is also probably some sort of bonding / connection with the sex.  It's a familiar thing that is oddly comforting.

Is it crazy that I don't want to stop sleeping with him?  One unfortunate side effect of the affair is that I will get a mental image of him with the other woman while we are in the act sometimes and it is really, really disturbing.  Will I be totally horrified by my behavior later on - like where is my integrity and self respect?  I've already lost so much and I don't want to lose sex too (full disclosure, he is very skilled in that department - I feel pretty sleazy even writing this!).[/quote]

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And this is what I'm worried about.  [/quote]

OP, ignore these people shaming you towards divorce.  They are either bitterly divorced and want you to be miserable too or they have an irrational fear of infidelity and try to deflate that by equating cheating = ultimate evil.

You sound like you are doing great under the circumstances.  My DW cheated on me early in our relationship.  We worked past it and we are very happy now.  She is human, she had an affair.  Infidelity is so common because monogamy is hard.

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